Find Your Tribe!

I love this video. 
It shows one guy at a festival dancing on his own. 
Full of joy, confidence and complete freedom. Maybe helped by a few beers 😊
Slowly, one person joins him. Then another. Before long, there is a whole group dancing together. I love it. It always makes me smile, because it captures something deeply human.

When I was young, I just wanted to fit in, so I hid and changed the parts of me that felt different.
I thought confidence came from blending in and following everyone else.
 
What I learned is that confidence comes from being yourself and discovering there are others just like you.
Finding your tribe is less about following the crowd and more about feeling safe with like‑minded people.
• The people you feel at home with.
• The ones who let you speak without editing yourself.
• The ones who do not flinch at your honesty, your emotion, your weirdness.

When you find them, something settles. Your shoulders drop. Your breathing slows. You realise you do not need to perform to be accepted.
 
For me, embracing my own weirdness was the first step. I have written before about how life‑changing that process was. When I stopped holding back, the right people moved closer. Others moved away, and that was okay.
Some tribes are temporary. Some are lifelong. We can belong to more than one.
 
It is also important to say this. Not every group that looks like a tribe is healthy. Some are closed, cliquey, or unsettled by difference. Some can even feel unsafe in how they judge or treat others. If you find yourself shrinking, self‑doubting, feeling judged, or uneasy about behaviours or attitudes, pay attention. You can try to integrate with kindness. And you can also choose to move on and keep looking.

Finding your tribe can be deeply life‑affirming. It can change how you see yourself and how safe the world feels.

So take a moment.

Look at yourself and what makes you, you.

Ask yourself, who is my tribe? And if you have not found them yet, go and look.

 One important thing to note. Try not to judge those who are different from you. They may simply belong to a different tribe.

 If this resonates, I would love to hear from you.

 Who is your tribe?

Thank you for reading this.

Please feel free to add your comments and share.

Graham

NOTE: Graham is available to give talks and training on this subject and others. Please get in touch here: https://www.cedartree-mhw.co.uk/guestspeaker-gf

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